About

My highest wish is to heal the violence in the world, starting with the violence I inflict on myself and extending outward to my relationships, my clients, and my communities. I created this site to invite you to join me.

I move toward that goal…

…in myself 

• by practicing self-love (including self-acceptance, self-appreciation, and self-intimacy)

• by cultivating curiosity about my neurodivergent brain and new accommodations for executive functioning

…in my close relationships

• by letting go of overt or subtle forms of control in favor of mutual autonomy, equality, and collaboration

• by embracing the shared work of repair when trust is damaged

…and with clients in workshops on communication, consent, deep listening, boundaries, and collaboration that feature

• richly interactive conversations and activities

• group agreements for safety

• and a non-hierarchical facilitation style.

I entered this work when I saw that the social norms I grew up with were harming me and the people around me. My curiosity led me to start an NVC Workbook study group with some friends, which evolved into the Connection Collaboratory—an experimental, peer-led community developing interpersonal skills and positive psychology. From there, I began working with How of Happy (of Elar Institute) on curriculum design and facilitation, teaching emotional intelligence, applied neuroscience, and mindfulness. Each of these experiences enriched my inner journey as well, bringing me into greater connection and collaboration with myself.

You can work with me by attending one of my public workshops, bringing me to do a workshop for your organization or community, or consulting with me on experience design, curriculum development, and educational materials.